Why I’m raising my son to be a feminist

I’m raising my daughter to be a feminist too, for that matter. It’s just that, apparently, these days, it seems even harder to grasp the concept of a man being a feminist than a woman. (And so this humble blogger tries to get all the attention…)

I find it truly disheartening that the word “feminist” seems to have acquired such bad connotation. For some, it seems to be right up there on the list of abusive phrases, maybe a close second to suicide terrorist. A feminist is a person who believes in the social, economic and political equality of the sexes – is that so difficult to own up to?
The negative vibe surrounding the term is why I am so thrilled each time I hear about a brilliant initiative like the one in Sweden, where every 16 year old is going to receive a copy of the brilliant “We Should All Be Feminists”, by one of the most inspiring female authors of our time, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Hilde Crevits,* attention please!

The book is an adaptation from her award-winning and truly inspirational TED Talk. I strongly recommend urge and plead on my bare knees that you hear this woman out. It takes 30 minutes of your time, but her message is so important (and, at times, downright HI-LA-RIOUS). This is what it all boils down to:

gender quote chimananda ngozi adichie

What if, in raising children, we focus on ability, instead of gender? Or interest? To use an – admittedly, corny – Sting quote: if you love someone, set them free… 



*Current Flemish Minister of Education.

5 gedachten over “Why I’m raising my son to be a feminist

  1. Kathleen schreef:

    For me, feminism is about recognizing the value of characteristics that are typically seen as feminine, such as tenderness, sensitivity and care-giving. In a macho society, men who show these traits are looked down upon, which sets the door wide open to frustration, homophobia, domestic violence, etc. Men suffer from this too. A great ted-talk I´ll always remember is this one by Jackson Katz (a male feminist, indeed!):

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